Don’t you just hate it when you’ve been speaking to someone, and it feels like your moving towards the right direction, and suddenly all the time you invested in getting to know this person just goes like it never happened?
We’ve all faced a fair share of rejection when it comes to finding love. That dreaded moment when you know deep down that it’s gone, but you want to hold on to every last hope. But it doesn’t change the fact that they’ve stopped texting you, and you go to sleep acting as if everything is normal, and they will probably message tomorrow. And the day comes and still nothing.
So you open your socials and see they are presently active, yes that’s when your stomach does a U-turn, and you probably start to question yourself! It kind of feels like your entire world has tipped over, and you’re now trapped in your mind gashing for fresh air.
I know I have felt that way when I’ve longed for somebody, and they disappear without an explanation.
I also believe within that pain there is hope and a reason why that person was taken out of your life. So chin up, shoulder back, smile because you are blessed with unconditional love, and you’re a winner. Like they say somebody’s loss is somebody’s gain!
A Little Sip Into, How I Was Ghosted…
So a couple of years ago I was speaking to this handsome man who pretty much ticked all my boxes. He made me feel so special and that he was totally in this for the long run. Honestly, my man took this relationship to the stage of telling his parents (mother) about me. That’s a big deal if you are telling your mother about us. I’m certainly going to think that my man going to snatch me up and he’s ready to make me his one and only. Let’s Go!
It was a pretty good four months that we were getting to know each other romantically. Suddenly the conversation started to get a bit dry. I would get a response 2 days later after I’ve sent him a message and from there it just became nothing!
At first, as we always hope for is that there busy! I would go on Instagram and I can see that he’s active! So why has he not read my message and not replied? Who knows!
I didn’t want to think too much of it so I let it be and a day went by and another and another, until I decided to message to just check up cause I like to think of myself, as a kind person, and checking up on others is important.
…… he reads it and doesn’t respond! Go on Instagram his putting up stories so I know he’s alive. Well played.
Weeks go past, I’m completely heartbroken, a similar situation to when Bella was sat in her bedroom watching the seasons go pass in the wait for Edwards return.
Well, maybe it wasn’t that deep! But I was so devastated, I really liked this guy and I had fallen so hard. He gave me all the reasons to fall hard for him with the special gifts and carefully delivered words. As weeks go by and months you tend to get over it slowly but surely. But in my case Oh boy this man wasn’t done, he then creeped out from the rock his being hiding and start to massage me like everything is well. Silly me I took him back and yes history repeated itself again.
This went on for good two years speaking, getting ghosted, taking him back and then disappearing again. But my Lord pulled through and gave me the strength to rebuke this man out of life for good! This experience was certainly heart-breaking but it made me strong and no man now can ghost me and tear me apart as he did. Yes, I might just shed a few tears but those tears aren’t lasting longer than 24 hours. Why? Because I am a Queen! And Queens don’t cry over F Boys!
I also wanted to share a couple of tips that helped me through the whole experience of being ghosted and trying to find myself again. So here my top tips on how you can move on from being Ghosted and reclaim your crown.
Reclaiming The Crown
- Cry – Yes you need to cry it out of your system. There is no point burying the situation so in a couple of months it comes to hunt you. By crying you accepting the reality and it’s the first steps in getting back to your best self again!
- Connect with your friends and family for support and open your heart out to them. Letting your close ones know how you feel will make the situation a lot easier to deal with.
- Develop interest in areas you never thought of before. Starting a new hobby is always good to get your mind away from a situation that might be hurting you.
- Self-Care is also important. Run yourself a bubble bath, do your face, grab a coffee, take a walk in the park and connect with nature.
And remember it may hurt now but it won’t hurt forever!
“To fall in love with yourself is the first secret to happiness.”Robert Morley