Ghosted… But Still Winning

Don’t you just hate it when you’ve been speaking to someone, and it feels like your moving towards the right direction, and suddenly all the time you invested in getting to know this person just goes like it never happened?

We’ve all faced a fair share of rejection when it comes to finding love. That dreaded moment when you know deep down that it’s gone, but you want to hold on to every last hope. But it doesn’t change the fact that they’ve stopped texting you, and you go to sleep acting as if everything is normal, and they will probably message tomorrow. And the day comes and still nothing.


So you open your socials and see they are presently active, yes that’s when your stomach does a U-turn, and you probably start to question yourself! It kind of feels like your entire world has tipped over, and you’re now trapped in your mind gashing for fresh air.

I know I have felt that way when I’ve longed for somebody, and they disappear without an explanation.

I also believe within that pain there is hope and a reason why that person was taken out of your life. So chin up, shoulder back, smile because you are blessed with unconditional love, and you’re a winner. Like they say somebody’s loss is somebody’s gain!

A Little Sip Into, How I Was Ghosted…

So a couple of years ago I was speaking to this handsome man who pretty much ticked all my boxes. He made me feel so special and that he was totally in this for the long run. Honestly, my man took this relationship to the stage of telling his parents (mother) about me. That’s a big deal if you are telling your mother about us. I’m certainly going to think that my man going to snatch me up and he’s ready to make me his one and only. Let’s Go!

It was a pretty good four months that we were getting to know each other romantically. Suddenly the conversation started to get a bit dry. I would get a response 2 days later after I’ve sent him a message and from there it just became nothing!

At first, as we always hope for is that there busy! I would go on Instagram and I can see that he’s active! So why has he not read my message and not replied? Who knows!

I didn’t want to think too much of it so I let it be and a day went by and another and another, until I decided to message to just check up cause I like to think of myself, as a kind person, and checking up on others is important.

…… he reads it and doesn’t respond! Go on Instagram his putting up stories so I know his alive. Well played.

Weeks go pass, I’m completely heartbroken, similar situation to when Bella was sat in her bedroom watching the seasons go pass in the wait for Edwards return.

Well maybe it wasn’t that deep! But I was so devastated, I really liked this guy and I had fallen so hard. He gave me all the reasons to fall hard for him with the special gifts and carefully delivered words. As weeks go by and months you tend to get over it slowly but surely. But in my case Oh boyyy this man wasn’t done, he then creeped out from the rock his being hiding and start to message me like everything is well. Silly me I took him back and yes history repeated it self again.

This went on for good two years speaking, getting ghosted, taking him back and then disappearing again. But my Lord pulled through and gave me the strength to rebuke this man out of life for good! This experience was certainly heart-breaking but it made me strong and no man now can ghost me and tear me apart has he did. Yes I might just shed a few tears but those tears isn’t lasting longer than 24 hours. Why? Because I am a Queen! And Queens don’t cry over F Boys!

I also wanted to share couple of tips that helped me through the whole experience of being ghosted and trying to find myself again. So here a my top tips on how you can move on from being Ghosted and reclaim your crown.

Reclaiming The Crown

  • Cry – Yes you need to cry it out of your system. There is no point burying the situation so in couple months it comes to hunt you. By crying your accepting the reality and it’s the first steps in getting back to your best self again!

  • Connect with your friends and family for support and open your heart out to them. Letting your close ones know how you feel will make the situation a lot easier to deal with.

  • Develop interest in areas you never thought of before. Starting a new hobby is always good to get your mind away from situation that might be hurting you.

  • Self-Care is also important. Run yourself a bubble bath, do your face, grab a coffee, take a walk in the park and connect with nature.

And remember it may hurt now but it wont hurt forever!

“To fall in love with yourself is the first secret to happiness.”

Robert Morley

Don’t You Just Love Being You?

“To fall in love with yourself is the first secret to happiness.” – Robert Morley

Love yourself more and start living the beauty of life.

When you love yourself little extra, you release the fears that’s holding you back, the voices telling you can’t do or be anything! Love is more powerful then these small things that hold us back.

When you love yourself, you start to shine from the inside and this lights reflects on the outside.

You become a magnet to all the good the world as to offer. You draw in like-minded people who respect you, value you, and love you for who you are.

Your energy sends out safety space for those who are in need of comfort. Your smile heals the earth, and when you laugh, Wow you just turn a frown upside down.
Its how you feel about yourself that changes your life.

Right now, start feeling happy, joyful, successful.

Give gratitude, laugh harder, dancer longer and sing louder.

You are amazing!

You are magnificent being!

Every inch of you is beautifully made!

Just like our Queen Rupual said –

“If you don’t love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?”

― RuPaul

Happy Thursday! 💜♥️

How I Manifested My Ring To Me

A couple of days ago I decided to give myself a deep cleansing facial in doing so I took my ring off to avoid any chemicals stripping away the beauty of the ring. Carefully placing this ring on my side table I went ahead with my facial cleanse, twisted my Afro got into my pyjamas, completely forgetting to put the ring back on.

The idea didn’t even cross my mind.

The following morning, I desperately wanted to wear this ring but couldn’t find it anywhere. I searched high and low in my bathroom and bedroom but nothing! Was I going crazy? No, I knew exactly where I left it, but it disappearing like this had me question myself for a bit.

Tuesday 14th, while washing my face I decided to think about my ring and the feelings I have when I’m usually wearing it. I then said to myself “I am so glad and happy that I have my ring on my finger, it feels great to wear this ring every day”. I said those words with passion, love and acted as if my ring was on my finger and everything was okay.

I simply went to bed and no thought about the ring came to me for at least two days. I had forgotten about the ring, let it go and accepted the outcome.

Friday 17th, me and my house-mates had a girlie night, playing games and chatting about all sort of interesting topics. About midnight we all decided to go to bed, as I opened my bedroom door the first thing I saw was my ring, nicely placed on my bed! The hairs on my arms stood up and my mind went quite, I was staggered! I looked around in case someone was in my room which would be crazy, but ayy never say never!

I thought maybe one of the girls found it and placed it on my bed but they all said no. The Whole night I couldn’t sleep I was full of excitement, joy also a little frightened but must of all I had so much gratitude that my ring has returned back to me safely.

To this day I’m still shocked and truly grateful that I was able to manifest something I cared about. It had me thinking about the whole letting go technique of the Law of Attraction. I’m a massive believer in the Law of Attraction and in the past I have been able to manifest some things to me. But with practice, I’m now able to let go and believe that its mine by acting as if through the power of feelings and its simply, done, done, done.

Without consciously knowing I carried out the three steps to attracting my ring back to me, which are:

  1. Ask
  2. Believe
  3. Receive
Anything is Truly Possible

Anything Is POSSIBLE!